Assertion & Independence

They are frequently called the ‘terrible twos’ the 24-36 month old is now a toddler in every sense of the word. She has gained her independence through general mobility, solving problems, speaking and feeding herself. She knows the names of her favorite toys & people, she may even be making her first friends.

Two year olds benefit from social interaction in a way that little toddlers and babies do not. Their imaginations are bubbling with creativity as they play house, doctor, pretend to be animals or make up stories and songs. Having a playmate encourages those sharing skills you have worked so hard on and gives children a sense of self. Her friend who has their own ideas and opinions becomes and adversary, assaliant, ally, and accomplice as she learns the self-control needed to acknowledge and interpret this playmates wants and needs.

Play time is Special time

• Playing dress up is a wonderful way for your child to express her creativity. When you join in you add your own ideas and expand on hers. Simple items such as hats, necklaces, scarves, purses, backpacks, shoes and old clothing make great additions.
• Ask your toddler simple questions like “Do you want milk or juice?” “Do you want to wear the purple shirt or green one?” Giving your child choices gives them self confidence and avoids the “no” answer.
• Continue talking to your toddler about where you are going & what you are doing start asking them “What” “Who” & “Where” questions, soon they will be asking you the “Why?” question!
• Talk to your toddler and continue that play by play of the world by naming objects, actions their colours and names.
  

  Your toddler may have outgrown his nap but that doesn’t mean he can’t have quiet time. Sitting and reading books, drawing, doing a puzzle, doing crafts, and playing with play dough are all quiet activities that can give a toddler some much needed down time.

• Do the Hokey Pokey and other action games and songs. Now that your child can ‘turn himself about’ without falling down there is no end to the fun you two can have with music.

Not all children are the same, nor do they grow and develop at the same rates. Social skills take time. Some children are outgoing and will run off at a park or playgroup to play on their own with the other kids, a shy child may benefit from having a friend over in her own house where she is more comfortable. By being aware of your toddlers limitations and emotions you can help her work through them to her own independence.

Preschoolers 3-5 years